((((Blessed))) You know in your head that things will go eventually south, because it is the cycle that continues to go round...
IMHO I think this is manipulation...He is in the OH CRAP stage. You (codie) are throwing things off balance and changing the status quo and he is not quite sure what you are doing...so he better be on his best behavior. It is what it is....It is so hard in our heads when they are being caring, it is when they are A$$e$ that makes it so much easier, for me anway...
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Do what you have been doing, take care of YOU. It still is helpful that he is being this "nice" guy while you are in the process of taking care of YOU!!!!