I understand what you say.... My Ah's behavior all these year makes me think of a cat playing with an injured mouse it has caught. When the mouse is not moving, the cat shoves it around just to check that it is still alive, and the "game" goes on until the mouse dies.... Just like my AH has been playing with my love for him for 10 years. He would play Mr super nice when I was completely down and thinking of leaving, just long enough for me to question my own sanity, get up and get on with our life together. Until that time when my love truly died, so now he has convieniently gone to detox, thinking that somehow, I will get up again. But I can't. I just can't do this anymore. And maybe he is not playing anymore but he played for far too long.