ohh, i have OCD and bipolar too! (rapid cycling bipolar I) he sounds a lot like me. if i can help in any way let me know, i know how difficult i for one am to deal with when i'm having one of my 'down periods' as i call them. is he in therapy? an honest and totally open discussion is probably best if you havent already...it took about 10 of those discussions with me and my current boyfriend until i was really 100% truthful about both my bipolar and OCD (i minimized/lied about the severity, and wouldnt tell him exactly how i feel for fear of losing him eg when i'm down - which for me personally tends to most often last days or weeks, sometimes more - i actually just hate everyone, and want complete solitude and resent everyone in my life)
hmm i dont think i've helped at all, but if there is anything i can help you with let me know. hope it is all going well.