Mrs. Magoo, I don't think there is one single solitary person who has responded to you here who doesn't truly care for you and genuinely
hurt for you.
There are days I wish I didn't have the life experience as a codependent, having been married to an addict, having a 31 year old daughter who's an active addict, and as a recovering addict myself.
For me, it's heart-wrenching to read of your struggles with someone who has repeated the same pattern over and over, and see such a jewel of a woman sell herself short, and miss out on so much of what life has to offer sans active addiction in her life.
Every post I read from a struggling codependent has something in it where I see myself!
Last year was probably the scariest one for me when I took the plunge at age 50 and enrolled in college full-time, but I am so glad I faced the fear and did it anyway.
I wish you nothing but the best in life and a healthy recovery from codependency, but sadly I can't hand that to you.
