I refuse to feel sorry for either one of them. I really do understand the saying that my mom had, "You made your bed so now lie in it." The step-mom asked me if I thought Megan should be spending her money for vacation since she is planning on going to college in the fall. I just told her that it is her money and she can spend it anyway she wants. We don't help her pay her bills. The step-mom then said she did help the boyfriend pay bills so they have a right to tell him what to do with the money. I used to think that way too. But what I found is that it creates all kinds of resentments. It is just easier to say NO (of course we all know that we need to learn that lesson the hard way
) Hugs, Marle