((Magoo))
This would have to be some of the tough questions I would have to ask myself - and did have to ask myself when I decided was I going to keep on giving chances to a chronic relapser who after several yrs of sobriety & recovery couldn't get back on the road to recovery. This is what I had to use to decide if it was a healthy place for me to stay or not.
(And of course - look what I am going thru now after staying so many years.)
How long has this cycle of relapses been going on?
each time he says he is going to get "sober" again - how long does it last?
How much is he actually doing (not just saying)?
Is there true recovery growth during these periods of sobriety or just some Pink Cloud attitudes and then the bottom drops out at the first sign of difficulty and a relapse comes back in the picture?
Only you can answer these questions - only you can decide what is best for yourself. Yes, we can love and support our friends and loved ones who suffer from this disease if or when they relapse - but not at the cost of our sanity, our well-being or our own recovery.
HUGS to you,
Rita