This reading today is so important. There's a huge difference between mistakes and shame. This explains clearly in words that I've been searching for a long time, what bothers me about it when someone says, "I was wrong; you were right," something my dh says frequently. Everything is black and white to him, but it isn't to me. Thanks for giving me words to describe what I think about it and why I'm uncomfortable with the language of shame.
Naming what it is; thanks for turning on the light.