Hey KV,
My situation is probably different as I am not married nor do I live with Abf. We do spend 3-4 nights a week at his house with me staying there. That being said though should he make the choice to get drunk while I am there I go home.
He has all these plans about cutting back on his drinking and he has to some degree, (as you see I said "cut back" not quit). That is his choice that I have no control over. The only control I have is over my actions when he drinks.
He is also aware that as long as he drinks and does not get in a recovery program of some sort there will not be anything permanent with us.
However I still feel that for some reason Abf was brought in my life for a reason. Before him I was a lot more judgmental.
You should never have to pretend there is nothing wrong. However baby steps before you think about up and leaving. Have you tried acknowledging the good things he is doing? Put less focus on what he is doing and more focus into what you enjoy.