((silk))
New sobriety is a learning experience for everyone - You as well as him.
Not sure if you could have handled it differently or not - but if you were comfortable with the way you acted then seek for guidance, comfort and peace in what to do the next time.
As much as I wish I could say there won't be a next time, in reality there probably will - maybe you and your HP, thru reading literature, journaling, etc. - you could prepare yourself for what you would like to say and how you would like to say it. That way you won't be taken off guard.
Remember it's Progress not Perfection - Keep taking care of YOU - You deserve it!!
HUGS (hope, unity, gratitude and serenity)
Rita