Originally Posted by
ToughChoices 
I discovered that I was wanting, very strongly, to wait until P had another ugly alcohol incident to tell him that I was filing for divorce. That realization left me uneasy.
ToughChoices, I've had this thought very often - just waiting for the other shoe to drop or find something incriminating; I think because it would make any decision easier. There would be something to focus the blame on. I do this because I feel so unsure of what to do and worried of making the wrong choice (which likely means I'm not ready) - so an incident would make up my mind.
Good for you for following your heart. I wish you all the best.