((((hugs)))) I can totally relate. My stbXRAH is an alcoholic who stopped drinking but has become more and more verbally abusive - especially as I've started standing up for myself and taking care of myself. I've been called selfish and because I moved out he's started telling people I'm cheating on him, because he refuses to admit that despite the lack of alcohol consumption there is a MAJOR underlying problem/attitude that needs serious recovery.
It hurts so badly to be treated and talked to in such a hurtful way by the one person you've loved more than any other and who you wanted to spend your life with. I completely feel your pain, applaud you for taking care of you, and choosing the "better of two pains" to endure (leaving him versus staying). You are not alone. And feel free to vent anytime.
- JustMe