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I have seen some happy ending with some people in my Alanon group but I have also seen some very long drawn out sad endings (endings that should have happend a long time ago)
Like liesagain stated it takes a lot of work on both parts.. The addict and the SO must work their own program and the changes will not happen overnight or even in the first year..
Sometimes the happy ending is when the SO leaves the addict because he/she has changed so much on their part and is strong enough to be able to let go and does not want or need the addict in their life anymore..
They tell us in Alanon not to make any major or drastic decisions for at least 6 months unless our lives are in danger..
Take the time that you are seperated from your ABF to work on you.. Go to some meetings, do a lot of reading and keep posting on SR.. When the time comes for you to make that decision you will know what is best for you and your kids.