Hi hopeful!!
Yes those well meaning words are foreign to me as well, or my other personal favorites "look, he's moved on already" or "get someone else as he did" OK let's just say I stopped talking to those people... I feel much better reading SR.
I believe it is hard as well because the other one is still in denial and drinking the same or worse. Yes, this is not our problem now (or was).
But still makes it difficult to me to feel our relation had a purpose... it would be a different thing if the guy got somehow aware of the problem... but no, still in denial 100% and I bet he is drinking way more without me. Making me feel more alone.
Anyhow I am glad you are hopeful, the day when he is as indifferent to me as anyone else.. I will be SO PROUD...
you are doing very well hopeful!! >
