Hi Dumps!
You do have a lot on your plate.
Okay, I know somebody is gonna slam me, but my personal feeling is that you should do the thing that makes you feel best about yourself. Self esteem is a key issue in recovery and in relationships.
If going to meetings monopolizes your time, but it's the thing that makes you feel best, so be it. It's temporary. If the guilt of being absent from your family negates the positive things you find there, maybe it would be okay to back off a day or two a week.
Recovery first, yes. But avoiding unnecessary guilt helps sustain recovery.
Smoke