I'm so new at all this and with not much experience to draw from about facing hard times in recovery. But I remember what a woman with three children whose husband had left her said at a meeting today: "When I think having a drink will help me, I say to myself 'I've been through pain before and I know that this pain too will pass. I don't need to drink." Easier said than done, I know, but worth repeating to yourself when you meet up with these really awful moments.