thanks all for the encouragement!!
i should have stated that husband has refused so far to sign the settlement because he will then be legally required to put on his "big boy pants" and move out.
he is dragging his feet,trying to put that off as long as possible.
the 2 years is the time required in pennsylvania to be granted a divorce by the court if the other party won't sign.
thanks for sharing your strength, experience and hope!!