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Old 01-30-2009, 11:07 AM
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Lilyflower
Recovering Codependant
 
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Hugs n love to you, as an adult, you now have the strength and reasoning to revisit some of the things that happened and ask, 'should a child have dealt with that?' The purpose being not to lay blame at parents feet or to pass responsibility for current problems faced now onto someone else, but to realise and to comfort those hurts that we faced and learnt unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with.

It is sometimes painful, but going through my childhood through the eyes of the adult I now am, especially with the knowledge of parenthood and my own relationship with my daughter; has brought so much healing strength and resolve to go forward in my life. Not just thinking I will be alright but actually knowing I will because I have come to an understanding of myself and my behaviours I have never had in my life before. I know now I have choices, and can see them. I can break the pattern with Jennie my little girl and create the future I want for myself.

Blessings, love, serenity and strength to you...

Take this path of discovery joyfully

Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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