Listen to your friends and family. Listen to your husband. Always listen, then use the information that is useful to you, and discard the rest. It's not between you and your husband. It's between you and yourself. You are the only one who can know your own heart. Try not to get frustrated with the people who love you. Hearing opinions you don't like is better than living in a conspiracy of silence, or worse, mutterings behind your back. Accept their thoughts with the love with which they are intended, and keep your eyes and mind open.
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