>>I feel like I won't be supportive if I say this is it. I feel like I will be pushing him over the edge, even though I know in my head that isn't the case.>>
What do you feel it is to be supportive? What do you think it is to be supportive?
How do you feel you will be pushing him over the edge? Why in your mind do you know that isn't the case?
Is your spirit really that torn apart, meaning differences between your heart and your mind? If you spirit was not torn apart what would you do?