I'm struggling a little with this at the moment.
My RABF mentioned the other night whilst I was reading on SR that he's not sure why I still come here, I told him because I still need to work on me and he replied "Yeah but that area of my life is done with now, it's in the past, I'd rather just forget about it."
I just replied with a "mmm" and carried on reading. He can choose to forget about it and that is his choice, I'm finding it harder, maybe because I remember more clearly the hell that it was and I wasn't anesthetized throughout it. But it got me thinking about forgiveness and "letting go" and why I'm finding it hard to "put the past behind me".
The last thing I want is to hold on to resentments but sometimes it's hard not to. I'm also struggling a little that after 11 months sober there is no apology for his behaviour whilst drinking.
There is bound to be changes and feelings change too, that can't be helped. If you are sure you don't "fit" anymore, what is keeping you there?