dear colleen my girlfriend is 40 years old.in the past 8 years she has been in rehabs seven times.i took her in every time as i could not bear to see her suffering.i eventually started to focus on myself going to meetings and detaching with love.For the first time in those years she decided to do something about it without my intervention.she was clean for a year and seven months relapsed for a week and started recovery on her own without my manipulation.a change in my attitude by focusing on myself detaching with love ,letting go so far as worked for me and her.she now appreciates the tough love i gave her ekie