I think our paths to quitting will be as varied as the paths that led us to drink/use/over indulge, what ever. I quit being fat when I hated being fat enough, I quit smoking when I was ready, now I'm ready to quit drinking. I didn't need the patch, or self help books or groups, I just did it because I personally could.
I've read 2 AA based books since I quit, and just started a non AA book which makes more sense to me and is based on individual values and strengths, and I HAVE known lots of alkies and addicts "Doing it my way" has worked for, so heres to achieving peace within ourselves however we get there.