Uh oh, RAH is 15 yrs. younger than me. We have had problems but because of his addiction to drugs and my not knowing much about addiction.
I met him through his mother who rented a house from me at the time.
We share the same interest, fishing, gardening, biking, walks in the woods,yard sales, selling on E-Bay and cooking. Plus all the pets. He is the most gentle and loving person.
He is in prison for meth and should be out by April. I am not kidding myself-if I even suspect drugs, he is gone. Steps over just one boundry-he is gone. He had had 6 months of intensive rehab, six months of anger management (never saw him angry but once and not at me) and sounds like he is on the right path, time will tell. He has learned he has to attend meetings, go to church and to stay away from triggers-no past friends and no family. He is well aware of my boundries. He knows I mean NO.
We have been together 8 years and married 6. I have told him one year of sobriety for him and we will move out of state. If not-one year and I will move out of state.
Anyway, it has worked, except for the drugs.
Time will tell.