I thinks its all about adapting...........Wifes or husbands of addicts/alcoholics have to get to know the new person...Sometimes thats not easy i guess.
With me i was pretty unstable for the first year ish..mood swings.. some depression.....not a great person to live with...
I think once the steps started to seep into my life i became more stable.
Do you know what......i love my wife more every day....she is.......everything to me..
Ive realized what a beautiful person she is.........alcohol only blinded me to that...
My advice to anyone married and in early recovery is it does get better..
I know sometimes i would think.."GOD IM SICK OFF HEARING THAT TRIPE"
But it does......and carrys on getting better.
I guess its not the same for every one.......today my alison is my best mate.
as well as my wife.
Learn to love each other again i say..
And lastly....my wife drinks ....very little but drinks and that has nothing to do with me....
I am the one that doesnt drink like "normal" people not her.
Some years ago my wife would say to me "doesnt it bother you that i have a bottle of wine in the fridge"..and i replied "theres not enough booze in this house for me sweetie". which about sums it up...........trucker