Why do you think this is negative? I don't think you need to be defensive. If this thread isn't helpful to you, maybe it is helpful to someone who IS abused and needs to read this kind of stuff. No one is attacking you or your boyfriend. Quite the opposite. No one is telling you how to feel. Where does anyone say "You should feel X or Y"? I am just concerned based on your previous posts here. If you've changed your mind, that's fine. Good. Stick with your guns. I honestly hope everything works out for both of you.
As they say in the program "take what you want and leave the rest."
I'm glad you don't think you are a victim of abuse. I hope you never become one in the future. Either way, I hope you keep us posted on how things are going for you.
Most certainly, I hope you have firm boundaries in place and you keep them intact throughout your BF's recovery.