Hey there, CAE, welcome to SR. So glad you found this place -- especially right now, we seem to have a bunch of husbands who are searching for support with alcoholic spouses, so you're (for better or for worse) in good company.
Read around the stories on this forum - take some time, and keep an open mind - and especially have a look at the "Sticky" posts at the top of the forum. There is a huge wellspring of wisdom and experience here, complete with success stories, suggestions, ideas, tough love, and everything else you might need to improve your situation.
Living with an active alcoholic can be miserable. Have you ever considered finding a local Al-Anon (friends & family) group to sit in on? You've gone to AA with her, but what have you done for YOU ?
Hugs,
GL