She keeps saying she is going to fix herself. I keep saying great, let me know when you do.
SSlusser, this sounds like a mantra you can use daily. If she's truly interested in recovery and NOT just quacking because she's scared and wants her comfy enabler back (which is a more likely scenario), then give her six months or a year and see how her efforts go. Can both your head and your heart live with that?
Dragging your kids back into this only a few days after she's had this so-called epiphany is unfair. If you want to be supportive of someone, consider continuing to be support of THEM, and of YOU. Your AW has some work to do first.