thanks sslusser....I am you 4 months ago...lol I am just now seprating from my AH
But i see some similarities....It's like they start throwing out everything in their bag of tricks when hey start to feel us pulling away. I understand that feeling when your head is telling you one thing and your heart another.
I can't say whether or not she'll stay sober or if she is actually in recovery now. But who knows....if she does recover she will understand why you had to leave. If she stays recovered maybe you could get back together after a while. You never know.??
But for now you will have your serenity. You choose if and when you see her. You are in control of you
Isn't that a great place to be!
ETA: Thanks for the reminder to be positive with our A's. Sometimes I am so caught up in my own thoughts that I forget to give AH the encouragement he deserves.