Oh honey ((((((hugs))))))). I'm an alcoholic but I saw your thread and was moved. I will be praying for you and your family. Don't worry about "ruining" your Mom's vacation. She wouldn't come if she didn't want to. It's just what Moms do. My dh is now living with his girlfriend, but towards the end he wouldn't come home and wouldn't call. I know all too well that panic, that sick feeling in your stomach. I can't even being to image listening to what you did on the phone. That said, there are no mistakes in God's world, and although it was probably one of the worst things you ever had to go through, it was for a reason. Perhaps it was clarity to see what was really going on. I don't know the answer, and you may never know. But know this....even in the worst of times, He holds us in the palm of His hands.
((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
Annie