So why am I so upset about moving there?
Let's see, I can guess that........................................
1) You know your Abrother is there.
2) You and your children have been through this with you AH
3) Not really sure that you want to subject yourself and/or your children to this again.
4) Maybe a teeny bit 'mad' at yourself that you are in this bind.
5) Some lingering 'bitterness' at AH for being in this position.
Now all of the above are valid. I would like to suggest that you MAKE A PLAN, both a 'Budget Plan' and a 'Time Plan' so that before you take this step you have "Light At The End Of The Tunnel" to help you keep your focus on the outcome and not what is going to be going on around you.
It is rough right now, you are NOT A FAILURE, Company's and Corporations's are cutting workers hours, people are losing jobs, my neighbor across the street, a couple about my age, mid 60's just had son, daughter, 2 teenagers and 1 preteen move back in. Company son was working for closed. They have been fighting to save their house, were actually able to get it sold without it being foreclosed (so did save their credit for a future house), but with him still not working, and unemployment only going so far, they are in a real bind.
I understand your feelings, please just remember IT IS NOT FOREVER. This is a temporary means for you to finally get all the baggage of the past (the financial stuff) OFF YOUR BACK and give you room to breathe.
Yes it is going to be hard, but with your folks there, and only one house to take care of, you may be able to get to some extra Alanon meetings, get out with folks who understand and care.
Please remember we are here for you and we/I do care so very much. You have come so so far!!!!!!!!
Love and hugs,