L6, I was the AH, destroyed a beautiful marriage and hurt the one who truly loved me. We were divorced for over 5 yrs. we are now together again, recovery will work if worked. It took that time apart to bring us back together. For some, or most, that is not the case. We were blessed. I am sober for over two yrs now. Just want to offer this from the AA "Big Book", "Let no alcoholic say he cannot recover unless he has his family back. This just isn't so.In some cases the wife will never come back for one reason or another. Remind the prospect that his recovery is not dependent upon people"........."Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he get well regardless of anyone. The only condition is that trust in God and clean house."
If he resists giving up his weed and home-brew, his head is not in recovery. He will probably need to suffer some more, then, maybe.........
And by the way, you are responsible for you and to your children, no one else.
Oh yes.....It's not your fault!!!!
