Originally Posted by
Lucy06 
Before he went in, he asked me if he could come to stay at my place after his discharge (here rehab only lasts for 10 days at most), as, in his own words, he would not be able to maintain sobriety without being surrounded by me and the kids. I tried to explain to him that I did not feel strong enough to deal with this, especially, without knowing "who" he would be without alcohol and cannabis. He apparently dismissed this as I learnt yesterday from his dad that I had agreed to this deal!
If you do not want him moving back in, say No. THat is a complete sentence BTW.
What he might need and want is his concern. There are undoubtedly places he can go and the rehab palce will help him arrange to go to them. Or if his dad thinks living with him would be so great, let him move in with his dad.
Your primary concern is yourself and your children. Take care of you and those kids as you think best regardless of what anyone else tells you.