Welcome!! We are recovering fixers here, many of us (me for sure, lol) working on the control thing too. The Serenity Prayer has gotten me through an awful lot! It's tough relinguishing that role of savior of the universe at first, but I have found it to be such a huge load off my shoulders to acknowledge a power greater than me who does that job much better than i do! It also freed me up to focus on me and start this great recovery journey.