"He's lovely and funny and tender and smart.
And depressed and lonely and often closed off.
Package deal."
Ditto. Mine too but I couldn't live with that particular "package" anymore - I deserved more and could not deal with the irritable-ness, grouchiness, his frustrations while drinking, and the arguing that comes with those "few drinks" every night.
I didn't want to end my relationship with my xabf but I HAD to - for my own health and sanity.
Good luck to you.