Originally Posted by
Susan67 
My parents, sibs, kids and friends were all so disappointed that I took him back.
He's convinced my family talked me out of it. I actually talked myself out of it. My family is so important to me, they have seen the trials and tribulations of what he's put me through.
I sometimes struggle with attempts to control my family's perceptions of my relationship with my AH. It really hurts me to think that I am disappointing them or causing them pain.
But it is not their life. It is mine.
I cannot control how they feel about my decisions. I can only do what is best for me.
It sounds to me like you are doing a great job of taking care of yourself. You made a decision, recognized it as a mistake, and remedied that mistake. Good for you!
I choose to focus on the RECOGNITION and REMEDY more than on the mistake itself - hopefully your family will do the same. If not, it'll be ok. You'll be ok.
Keep your chin up, susan!
-TC