I can so relate to the housework thing and using the phone. I seemed to have reached the next level and the housework didn't get done, I had never lived in such an un organised mess. I just couldn't figure out how to organise myself to get anything done. I would fill the washing machine and walk off in the middle of that job to start another and nothing got done. I then stopped answering the phone drinking or not.
You will get so much help here, welcome :ghug