How dare you tell me that a discussion of "cultural modes of speech" is not important!
For your information, it is very important! Those who do not view it as important are free to ignore that fact. But do not tell me that my feelings, my point of view is unimportant!
How dare the moderator of this forum tell me my concerns are unimportant!
I happen to agree with everything FD said on that other thread. I was just going to add my two cents only to discover it had been closed because the moderator decided it wasn't important.
I very much resent being referred to as a girl. I am not a "girl" or "chickie" or "broad" or any of the other derogatory terms applied to women. Yes, words and labels are important in many ways!
I find it very interesting that when a discussion doesn't go the way a few don't like the thread gets closed.
What this tells me is that my thinking, my concerns are not viewed as being as valid as others. To which I say BS!
Learning that words are important, that labels do matter has been part of my personal recovery. Learning that words hurt is part of understnding that verbal abuse is important. No being called "girl" is not anything apporaching verbal abuse. Don't think I am saying that. But learning what words hurt me, what the societal menaings behind them, has indeed and will continue to be part of my personal recovery.
We are here because we love someone who is destroying themselves and others as a result of their addiction. That is our "singleness of purpose". Any other purpose belongs in some other forum, of which there are legion.
Any you know that this topic of dicsussion is not related to my recovery how? You know that this subject is relevant how?
6- The various opinions germane to this thread have been made. Additional commentary is making no progress, and is quickly becoming a squabble. Therefore I have close the thread.
Wow! Amazing that you know all relevant comments have been made. Are you going to close all threads where you have made this enlightened decision?
7- There are a number of new people whose children, spouses, or other loved one is dying from addiction. Today. This minute. Their needs are far more pressing than a discussion of cultural modes of speech.
There are women (and men) in here struggling with their recovery. Yes, this an aspect of recovery. No I am not going to die from it but I resent you telling me my recovery isn't important. I thought that was the purpose of this forum?