{hugs}
I also hid the fact that I was leaving from my xAH. Infact I hit that fact til the morning I moved out. It was the right way for me to do it. I didn't need the extra drama of him pleading with me to stay or his anger that I was daring to leave him.
Congrats on recognizing that you need more than you can get out of your marriage. I hope your new year bring you the peace and serenity you deserve.