I totally understand.....my AH invited me to his friends house for a NYE party tonight....I told him I didn't think it would be a good idea. (he just admitted he had a problem on Sunday) I gave him another option.....lets go to a late movie....it's something other than a "party" and we could be together for the New Year! excuses, excuses, "I already told him I'd bring a covered dish, I already told him I'd supply this and that, ect. ect. All I can say is, "Ok, no big deal, your choice!" I know it hurts, but it gets easier. The disappointments get easier. I just have to ask myself....."how many more will I allow him?"