He told me tonight that I hadn't made any progress on "this issue" (meaning his alcoholism), that I was still right where I started. I still wanted to control him. I still wanted him to be someone else.
Wait. You want him to be sober and healthy? That's terrible!
The ways of the alcoholic to manipulate never cease to amaze me.
Really though, what he's saying is "This is who I am! I'm a drunk, so get over it already!".
Guess that leaves the ball in your park.