Des, congratulations on day 28th!
glad to see you here, welcome..
for me finding out I was a codie was liberating, I always knew something was wrong and couldn't seem to get at 'it'
finally...there WAS a reason for so much pain, now I knew WHAT was wrong...
Des, have you seen or read any of Melody Beattie's books? Co-dependent No More is her first one and one of the best handbooks on co-dependency in my opinion...