Originally Posted by
isitme 
I really want to do the right thing for my kids more than anything.
Then let that be your motivation. You cannot be an effective parent if you are an emotional wreck. I know this because my children lived with two dysfunctional parents for years. My kids were 12 and 8 when we separated. If I have any regrets, it's that I didn't do something sooner. They each saw a therapist for a year and a half after the separation. They are doing okay, but still have many issues. If I had it to do over, I would have removed them from the chaos and uncertainty when they were younger.
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