i had to quit giving credibility to what my xah opinions were about me or anything else.
he didn't think rationally. he was wired differently. and he had me believing all the crap he spewed at me. living with him kept me frozen in time.
baby steps. the best steps ever. if i consider the whole picture with the alcoholic, it is so mind boggling that i do nothing.
but if i make one baby step a day, it empowers me to take another baby step.