Originally Posted by
GiveLove 
isitme,
It could be that you're not taking action because the task is just too huge. It was for me -- a big huge ball of tangled spaghetti that I simply couldn't face.
That's exactly it,
a big huge ball of tangled spaghetti!!
I really don't know why I stay. I guess all the usual reasons that I know are not reasons at all.. finances.. mostly cars loans, rent and the lease. I have also started to believe some of the baloney.. and I worry that it'll only get worse when I leave. I worry about losing the children or worse that he's right about my anger and the choices I make in raising them.
Our finances are already seperate because we are not married, so that part is fairly easy.. I guess I can't put my finger on what keeps me.. hope or stupidity. I guess I just don't want to seem like a quitter, like a failure. Even though I know doing the thing that's best for my kids and I is neither of those things.