What has surprised me in my life is that all the signs pointed in a direction that I knew I did not want to go with my x-husband of 15 years. But it took me a long time to see that enough was enough. Imagine him in sickness…and drinking…or good health …and drinking, birthday parties, anniversaries, funerals etc…drinking.
Then there is the fall out of how it changes your perception of reality, and it will. Just when you think that you have left “that lifestyle” it sneaks back up on you and you are starting all over with a person with similar traits. It truly sneaks up.
So listen to these much smarter people than I, and think about what you want out of your life before you excuse him for doing what he wants in his. This is a relationship that is in its infancy stages. Nip it in the bud.