I'm with Denny. Different people have different capacities for love. And love means different things to different people -- and there are as many definitions of it as there are human beings on this planet.
In one of Kurt vonnegut's books, there's a character who hates the way people parrot "i love you" over and over again, he says 'it's like someone has a roll of toilet paper with "i love you" printed on each square, and they just tear one off and hand it to you".
I'm not that cynical, but I do know that the only question that matters is whether someone's definition of love - and ability to love - is enough for ME. My life is the only one I can control
Define how you need to be loved, inahaze, and then decide whether you have it now or not.
And act accordingly.