Unfortunately...I jumped the gun and let him listen...we were on a 2 hour car ride....I had a looooong chat with him first....this man is not his father....and I'm afraid because he's been the prime male figure he'd think this is what fathers are!!!
So we had a looong chat...I gave him the option...asked if he wanted to hear....I wouldn't have played it if he said no...
but he said he did want to ....and I didn't let him hear the really bad one.....I did tell him....that I had registered the calls with the police...I also told him...there are consequences for all our actions....and if you don't want something used against you...don't do it!!! I told him...I wasn't sure if I was doing the right thing because he may end up living with this jerk....but....I told him....what he owes this man if he ends up back with him....is politeness, which is what anyone deserves if you live in their house.