Alanon meetings are my sanity... Alanon is a group for friends and family's of addicts and alcoholics... we are taught in alanon how to take care of ourselves, how to set boundaries and how to rely on our HP to get us through every moment of every day...
They are completely free, they are completely anonymous, and they meet in just about every city in the world...
Even if you are not still with him, you should still go to these meetings... the only requirement for attending meetings is if your life was affected my an addict or alcoholic... I think you more then qualify my dear.... I will go to these meetings for the rest of my life... with or without my AH in the picture...
YOu will find nothing but warmth and support there... no one will judge you...
Please PM me if you have any other questions, I will be glad to help you in anyway that I can..