Yes I have gone to Alanon as well as frequent these boards. And I have detached and have had no contact with him since August when I threw him out of my house for the LAST time. But he still shows up every now and then via email, phone calls (which I don't answer and just erase message on the machine w/o even listening) or at my front door. I gave him my answer a few weeks ago when he asked if there was any hope..........won't even talk to him until he shows he is in true recovery, is living his life w/o alcohol, working, and taking care of his financial and other responsibilities. And then he shows up on my front porch a few days ago. Obviously he didnt' "listen" to my words. But then again, if he shows up and I call the police that's another excuse to drink. So how do I continue to move forward if he won't let go and I feel like I am walking on eggshells just waiting for the next contact? BTW --- this is my XSO.
Doreen