Once again, who the f is woollie.
Wibble - you've gone all wise on me!! I've upset someone already doing the exact same thing you have been talking about , saying no! (It wasn't the lodger, don't worry!) But I figure the same as you - if I can't see myself handling it sober, I'm not doing it.
But being a people pleaser is one of my defects - I think a lot of woman have this problem, right girls?